Relationship:
Marriage Bound Dating Is Not Trading or Commercial Venture!
In
this contemporary era, some people have wrong perception about dating either it
is being done online or offline. Therefore, it is pertinent to clear some of
the major misconceptions about modern dating.
What
is dating? The art of dating means studying someone you have seen as a
potential for marriage. This process is very important and acts as the
foundation of serious relationship which lead to marriage.
The
11 vital facts below will enlighten you extensively on what you don’t know
about modern dating and relationship matters.
1.
Due
to the fact that some people are not real and can change after a time, dating
offers you the opportunity to do your own background checks, investigation,
questioning and interviews just to make sure you are with the right person.
You
should know that dating is not trading or an activity of buying and selling
goods and services. This is not a profit-making venture. Therefore, serious
dating should be built on true friendship and sincere unconditional love.
2.
If
you are a disciplined young lady, anytime you agree to date a man either online
or offline, please bear in mind that you are studying the man for marriage.
Therefore, you are not trading your body for money or regular financial
support.
3.
As
a female student in tertiary institution, it is pertinent to know that the
young man you are dating is not responsible for your daily upkeep, school fees
or feeding money.
However,
if he wants to offer help, ensure that you ask him whether there is any “hidden
charges” or the terms and conditions. It is essential to know his true
motive from the onset of your cordial interaction.
4.
As
a responsible lady, your sincere love is not for sale so you should not
entertain any form of bidding, buying, trading or exchange.
One
thing about money is that, it can make anybody look real. Indeed, fake suitors
can shower money on you to make you think they are real.
5.
As
a decent lady, you should be open and honest with the man you are dealing with
as well as with yourself. Ensure that you know what is good for you and what is
bad for you in any relationship.
Therefore,
know what you want and be willing to do what it takes to get it, rather than
using men for that in the name of dating.
6.
As
a man or woman in a serious relationship, it is honorable to manage the little
you have, be content with that and work on getting your own bread rather than
waiting to be fed always.
Don’t
cheapen yourself. Being handsome or beautiful outside is not enough, being
honest makes you more attractive.
7.
You
should be a real goal getter, for such a lady doesn't stress about what or how
much a man has. A responsible lady is working on her own and only thinks about
what the two can build together in the future not what she can gain or get from
her relationship with a man.
8.
On
the part of a man during dating period, if you are going to treat dating as
trading then please remember s*x is the price for how much you spend on the
lady you are involved with. To her, after giving s*x, she has done her part of
the bargain.
Having
s*x with her or providing for her doesn't mean you own her. Either of you are
just mutual customers or trading business partners.
9.
As
a responsible man, if you don't want commercial dating, then don't start it.
The fact that you bought an expensive Android Smartphone for a lady doesn't
mean she can't speak to any other male on it.
The
fact that you rented an apartment for her doesn't mean she can't accommodate
other unknown cousins. Remember you are just business partners and she has the
right to do business with others too.
10.
The
fact that you have the password to her social media handles doesn't mean you
are winning, for not all transactions take place there. Serious business minded
people know how to keep their trade secrets.
11.
Now
that you know the consequences of commercial dating, ensure that you truly know
what you want and go for that.
If
it is marriage bound dating you want, the aim is to find the one who will watch
every sunrise with you until the sunset of your life.
That
is what serious and permanent relationship is all about. Therefore, marriage
bound dating is better than commercial dating.
In
conclusion, if all your focus during dating period is money, the Bible
cautions: “For the love of money is the first step toward all kinds of sin.
Some
people have even turned away from God because of their love for it, and as a
result have pierced themselves with many sorrows.” (1 Timothy 6:10).
Therefore,
since only the wise people will understand wise counsel, let true unconditional
love refine you always.
