In any relationship, there is a tendency for
situation of things to get rough at a particular point in time. Sometimes, you
have to compromise, have to go through anger and have to endure some troubling
times to come through it all.
The reality on the ground is that if you get through
and keep it going forward then you will look back and feel it was all
worthwhile. In a nutshell, the positive aspects of a good relationship far
outweigh the negative aspects.
Even if there is a lot of love, some relationships
just will never work out because the whole thing could be toxic and doomed from
the outset. Others break apart slowly and some just drag on for far too long.
Therefore, it is difficult to discern accurately
when it is time to give up but it is worth taking a look over the whole
situation if you have any doubts. Below are the 13 vital warning signs to look
out for when you are in a troubling or wobbling relationship and the proffered
solutions.
1,
You
and Your Partner Don’t Spend Any Time Together!
The situation of things will determine the time you
spend together with your partner. Sometimes, it may be that work or school is
consuming the time of one partner and this is a relatively short term thing.
However, if in your down time you are just no longer
spending any time together or you are sharing space but not activities then it
could be that things are breaking down and are beyond repair.
It is very important to keep communication lines
open between two partners who spend their days focused on other people’s
careers and other people. Therefore, it is essential to find time to relax and
have happy moment together.
Once or twice in a month, you and your partner can
get out of your house and enjoy dinner together while talking lovingly. Ensure that
you make a list about what issues you think you need to address and talk about.
It is about the two of you, not family matters.
You should validate each other and remember what it
was like when you first started dating. Things may be different presently but
the longer you stay married the more mature your relationship will become.
2.
Glaring
Signs of Contempt in Your Relationship!
When you analyze conversation between some couples,
you can easily detect warning signals that indicates that a particular couple
may not remain married for a long time. In some cases, the biggest issue
emanates from underlying contempt. This could be just one partner rolling his
or her eyes or showing slight disgust.
Therefore, if there is an underlying contempt in
your relationship, you should address it immediately or else it may degenerate
into an acute resentment that may tear the relationship apart eventually.
You should give it time. Getting a relationship back
on track takes time. Therefore, set in your mind a time frame with periodic
check-in to see if things are improving. You should remember though that it is
not a wait-and-see proposition which can be passive.
It is essential for you to commit and make saving
your relationship an active project. At the end of a particular time frame,
check-in to see how things are going between you and your spouse. You should
start to acknowledge the positive changes you have experienced and fine-tune
the things that still needs work.
3.
You
and Your Partner don’t Talk Intimately Anymore!
At the onset of your relationship, you and your
partner used to share anything under the sun but presently, both of you hardly
talk to each other about intimate, personal matters anymore. When you are no
more talking together in an intimate manner, it is a sure sign of communication
breakdown and one of the biggest red flags of a troubled marriage or wobbling
relationship.
It is essential to open up to each other and
interact lovingly like you used to do in the past. When you are absolutely
certain of your true feeling for your partner, there is nothing wrong in saying
“I love you” regularly. Therefore, you
should feel free always to express your sincere feelings for each other because
this will strengthen your marriage or serious relationship and ensure
continuous loving rapport.
4.
You
and Your Partner Fight Frequently!
It is not unusual for every couple to disagree and
bicker occasionally but if you are frequently fighting, you are in a bad situation
with each other. If you are unable to even work out your differences and every
conversation ends up in nasty spat, you may need to decide whether there is any
future for your relationship or marriage.
Additionally, you can’t get over any quarrel with
each other. When you fight, you are starting to sound like a broken record,
harping on past mistakes or old issues without any resolution. The reality on
the ground is that if you can’t learn to forgive and move on past previous
nasty issues, your relationship or marriage will crumble. If there is an
underlying jealousy, this negative emotion can kill any relationship and it is
often disgusting due to constant distrust. The permanent remedy is mutual
trust, understanding and open-minded disposition between you and your partner.
5.
Your
Partner Is A Serial Cheater!
As a lady, a glaring sign that your relationship is
wobbling precariously is if your partner is a chronic womanizer who is unlikely
to change his ways, and your odds of saving the marriage or relationship are
abysmal. You may need to decide whether it is time to ditch the serial cheater
and move on in order to avoid continuous distress.
6.
You
and Your Partner Don’t Hang Out Together!
Your relationship is not working well if you and
your partner don’t hang out regularly together. Instead you are spending all
your time on work and with friends, and you are actually relieved you don’t
have to be with each other. This unpleasant situation is a major tell-tale sign
that you have lost interest in each other.
A loving partner who is serious will support you
when you are going through tough times or any emotional issue. Therefore as a
serious partner, you should be willing to render loving and inspirational
support always. A loving spouse who is in love with you can’t stay a day
without hearing from you. In essence, no man or woman is too busy for the love
of his or her life. Indeed, true unconditional love is soul lifting and
endless.
7.
You
Are Often Contemplating A Future Without Your Partner!
At the onset of your relationship or marriage, you
used to make continuous plans about the things you wanted to do together as a
couple. Presently, the situation is not like that anymore. Now, when you think
about your future, you are not so sure that you even want him or her to be in
it.
At times, some couples think briefly what life might
be like if they hadn’t met and connected together. However, if it is something
that is on your mind a lot, it means that there is a gaping crack in the
relationship or marriage.
8.
Your
Partner doesn’t Respect You!
In an ideal situation, there must be mutual respect
in a loving marriage or relationship. However, if your partner regularly does
or says things without regard to your feelings, the relationship is almost
always unsalvageable unless he or she changes his or her attitude.
It is a sign of insecurity if your partner often
belittles you because this negative attitude elevates him or her to a superior
level or position of control. It is not good to tolerate this abuse. It must be
halted or else the relationship will crumble eventually.
9.
Your
Relationship Has More Bad Than Good Traits!
You need to re-assess your relationship if you have
more bad times than good times. It is true that every relationship has its ups
and downs but the good should always outweigh the bad. This is how you can get
an indicator of where your marriage or relationship stands, whether thriving or
wobbling woefully.
10.
You
and Your Partner No Longer Have Regular Sexual Intimacy!
A glaring symptom of a failing
relationship is when the desire for regular sexual intimacy is gone in a
marriage. It is a known fact that the most intimate way to bond as a married
couple is through regular and loving sexual intimacy.
As a married couple, don’t forget about
total loving care. Instead of trying to mold your partner into the perfect
partner, focus on being the ideal partner you seek. This will allow you to
engage with your partner from a place of wholeness instead of from a place of
neediness or fear that you can’t take care of yourself.
It is essential for you not to forget
about how much you love your partner. Therefore, it is important to extend your
relationship the same devotion and tenderness you give a newborn child. A
relationship will fail to thrive without on-going care, love and attention.
11.
You
Are Miserably Married Without Any Marital Joy!
As a married couple, you and your
partner are not happy and you feel there is nothing you can do to bring back
the joyful marital spark. At this unpleasant stage in your marital life, it is
time to jointly ponder whether there is any point in staying married if it no
longer makes you feel fulfilled. Don’t resent each other. Resentment is a
poison that will kill a marriage.
In order for a marriage or a
relationship to heal and grow, it is essential that you release resentment over
things that went wrong in the past. The plain truth is that the past is over,
no matter how much you think it could have been different. Therefore, the past
is never going to change.
12.
You
Are Tired of Arguing With Your Partner!
An irreparable issue in any relationship
occurs if constant arguments are just leaving you and your partner drained and
tired. This unpleasant situation will wear both of you over time. Also, when
you no longer argue, it is also a dangerous sign of a crack in the relationship
that will grow into large crack. This means that you or your partner may have
just gone into radio-like silence due to arguing and then feeling there is no
longer any point to it.
Marriage or serious relationship is all
about the good and the bad but when the bad, like yelling, fighting and the
silent treatment become a pattern that is hard to break, serious effort is
required from both sides if you want your marriage or relationship to last.
Cold silences, slamming doors, court battles and financial struggles are
unpleasant and never necessary if you want to save your falling marriage or
relationship.
It is essential to avoid dramatic
pronouncements, scenes and ultimatums when problems come up. Instead learn to
sit down like a loving couple and talk about any problem like adults and find
out what the solution might be.
13.
Your
Partner Is a Liability, Not An Asset!
As a man, after you commenced dating a
lady, you should find out whether she is an asset or a liability to you. A
reliable lady should be a valuable asset that will remain loving, caring,
undemanding and understanding.
On the other hand, a lady who is a
liability will expect a man she is dating to be solely responsible for everything
like providing regular data subscription for her Smartphone Internet browsing. If
she needs to meet you anytime, you must pay her transport fare. Your money goes
to her regular hair upkeep.
Your bank account suffers setback on her
birthdays. She does not speak big grammar, but she has big drama. She loves to
eat out all the time at expensive restaurants and doesn’t like personal cooking.
She calls you stingy and nags bitterly if you don’t meet her material and
financial demands. Young man flee for your life. You can never fulfil your
potential with her by your side!
Due to the fact that some people are not real and can change after a
time, dating offers you the opportunity to do your own background checks,
investigation, questioning and interviews just to make sure you are with the
right person.
You should know that dating is not trading or an activity of buying and
selling goods and services. This is not a profit-making venture. Therefore,
serious dating should be built on true friendship and sincere unconditional
love.
If you are a disciplined young lady, anytime you agree to date a man either
online or offline, bear in mind that you are studying the man for marriage.
Therefore, you are not trading your body for money or regular financial
support.
As a female student in tertiary institution, it is pertinent to know
that the young man you are dating is not responsible for your daily upkeep,
school fees or feeding money. However, if he wants to offer help, ensure that
you ask him whether there is any “hidden charges” or the terms and
conditions. It is essential to know his true motive from the onset of your
cordial interaction.
As a responsible lady, your sincere love is not for sale so you should
not entertain any form of bidding, buying, trading or exchange. One thing about
money is that, it can make anybody look real. Indeed, fake suitors can shower
money on you to make you think they are real.
As a decent lady, you should be open and honest with the man you are
dealing with as well as with yourself. Ensure that you know what is good for
you and what is bad for you in any relationship. Therefore, know what you want
and be willing to do what it takes to get it, rather than using men for that in
the name of dating.
As a man or woman in a serious relationship, it is honorable to manage
the little you have, be content with that and work on getting your own bread
rather than waiting to be fed always. Don’t cheapen yourself. Being handsome or
beautiful outside is not enough, being honest makes you more attractive.
You should be a real goal getter, for such a lady doesn't stress about
what or how much a man has. A responsible lady is working on her own and only
thinks about what the two can build together in the future not what she can gain
or get from her relationship with a man.
As a responsible man or woman, if you don't want commercial dating,
then don't start it, Ensure that you truly know what you want and go for that.
If it is marriage bound dating you want, the aim is to find the one who will
watch every sunrise with you until the sunset of your life. That is what
serious and permanent relationship is all about. Therefore, marriage bound
dating is better than commercial dating. Let true unconditional love refine you
always.





